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Spend More Time Together

Topics: Young Adults and Families, Community, Student Ministry

family-bannerAs we navigate these next few weeks at home with our families in close quarters, it’s important to realize how we affect one another. While some of us may be thrilled to spend more time together, other people may feel the complete opposite.

I think everyone can agree that there is a difference between who we are at home and who we are when we’re everywhere else. We are much more willing to give each other attitudes, ignore requests and lose our temper when we are with our families. However, when we are at work, school or church, we are much more flexible, forgiving and kind to the people around us. Why is it that we are one person at home and another person to the rest of the world?

I think if we’re honest, we can have an attitude that reflects thoughts about how the world revolves around us while everyone else is just living in it. I’m sure you don’t really believe that the world revolves around you, but sometimes we can act like it when we are with our family.

You’d never stand up in the middle of a staff meeting and share your real feelings about a new decision. You’d never tell your boss that the project he asked you to do is boring. I think we are aware of the “team effort” it takes when we are in group settings. We need to be intentional about how we act and talk at home to the people we love the most. Those are our people and we need to create environments that are fruitful and uplifting. Our attitudes affect the people we live with more than we could ever realize, so it’s important to take this topic to heart.

Genesis 37: 1-9 tells the story about Joseph getting a special cloak and having some wild dreams. There was an immense amount of tension in their family between Joseph and his siblings, and the story told in verses 1-9 creates even more upset feelings.  In the moment, Joseph could only see how his situation effected himself. He was excited about the dreams and expectant for what the future would hold for him while his brothers were getting heated by the second.

I’m no scholar but I believe that this passage wants us to see beyond a cloak and some wild dreams. I think it shows us three main points:

  1. Family relationships didn’t just become complicated over the past century. It’s been happening for thousands of years and God has chosen to put this story in the bible to teach us how we should(nt) navigate difficult situations.
  2. We play a bigger role in our families than we even realize. The way we treat, speak and act towards one another does affect everyone involved.
  3. Tension not dealt with will never just magically go away. We need to speak the truth but from a loving way. This is the type of genuine kindness Pastor Tom and Asbury Church desires for each of you.

So I challenge you today and ask how you can be someone who brings peace into every situation? How can you find the bright side to every conflict instead of stirring the pot? Philippians 2: 3-4 says this; “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interest but each of you to the interest of the others.

I pray that you live this verse out over the next few weeks so that you can create peace during these crazy times!

Posted by Katie Miller on Mar 24, 2020 6:37:33 PM

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