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How Quarantine Taught Us To Say “No"

Topics: Student Ministry, Students, parents


This may be the first time in modern history that the world has been forced to slow down, reevaluate, and make time for the things that mean the most to us, all at the same time. 

Think about that for a second.

When was the last time that something so big affected the whole entire world simultaneously? This season has taught me many lessons, but one of the biggest things I’ve learned can be summarized by one word – which is “no”. We have had no activities, no vacations to plan, no parties to host, and no busy schedules. Before quarantine, we were forced to say “no” when we had hit our threshold, were completely exhausted and couldn’t handle one more activity on our schedule. Over the past few months, the world has said “no” for us and has given us time to not feel guilty about slowing down, recharging and spending time with the people we love the most.

I think we all tend to run at the same speed as the people around us whenever we see our circle of influence being involved in multiple activities, going on vacations, accomplishing big things and constantly hosting friends over at their house. It’s easy to get caught up in turning your dial from rabbit speed to energizer bunny speed in order to keep up with those around you. Now more than ever, it’s so important for each of us to realize what we need to say no to as restrictions start to be lifted. We need to remember that the world probably won’t be telling us “no” and to “slow down”, so your voice matters! I encourage you to sit down with your student and help them think through the changes that need to be made and how to say no as well. Maybe it’s an unhealthy friendship, maybe they’ve realized they don’t love the sport they’ve poured hours of their time into ever week or maybe they need to say no to hanging out multiple times a week. Just maybe the answer is spending time at home recharging.

It’s vital for you to start this conversation with your student today and then, empower them to make some decisions. Your student needs your guidance, but they don’t need you to make the decision for them. Trust that you have raised your student to make well-informed choices and encourage them to live it out. Giving your student opportunities to reevaluate and teaching them the importance of saying “no” to life draining things today may just be the tool that will benefit them for the rest of their lives.

Posted by Katie Miller on Jun 3, 2020 4:12:51 PM

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